Five Tips to a Healthier, Happier, More Satisfying Relationship

Reviewed by James Brann, M.D.

If you're scheduling your romantic encounters two weeks in advance, perhaps the spark is gone. Well, here are some suggestions to light the fire again.

You love him, he loves you. You have a really good life together. Fulfilling jobs, a comfortable home, great friends, a satisfying relationship. You’ve got it all, right? What’s that look? Ohhhh, your libido. Well, no one can have it all. Somethin’s gotta give. Or does it? Some things just take a little more time and attention. Follow these tips and with a little energy, creativity, and a “whole lotta love,” you'll have the sparkyou want and deserve.

1. Be Spontaneous. There’s no rule that says relations needs to take place in the dark of night. If the kids are all at play dates, and your sweetie’s looking extra sweet, there’s no need to wait ‘til bedtime. Take him by the hand, and get going. There’s no time like the present.

2. Affection and desire go hand in hand. Making love should be an all day affair. Think about it. Holding hands under the breakfast table, a sweet kiss as you head out for work, a lunchtime phone call filled with sweet nothings, cuddling together to watch the sunset or the kids at play – these are all part of making love. Consider it emotional foreplay. When you feel loved, you are more loving. So make the first move, be affectionate all day long and you’ll reap the rewards that evening.

3. Dates aren't just for swinging singles. Relationships grow and change as time goes by. As life becomes more complicated, romance aren't always a priority, but they should be. Date nights aren't luxuries, they're necessities. Work late one less night a week, hire a babysitter or arrange to trade off kids with a friend, schedule some couple time during soccer practice. Make your relationship a priority.

4. Experiment. Don’t be afraid to try new things. After all, a little variety keeps things interesting. Small, comfortable changes in your routine can make things a lot more interesting. Keep the lights on, consider new locales, just have fun.

5. Talk with your partner about what you want/need. He’s not a mind reader. Neither are you, you know. Tell him what you're curious about, tell him how you want things done, and then listen. It’s a two-way street.

If you’re satisfied in your relationship, you'll be better able to deal with all that life has in store for you. You’ve heard it before: when you’re happy, everyone’s happy. So, go find your sweetie and get happy.